Follow up: Going out of my comfort zone….call me maybe?

Since I told you of stepping out of my comfort zone and literally ‘reaching out’ to a guy I was interested it, I guess I need to give you the follow up results…..

After getting Mr. IMs number, I said I would call him the next day and we settled for 4ish.  At about 4:15, I muster up the courage to make yet another ‘cold call’ to a stranger (although once you do enough of these, it does get somewhat easier–I imagine I’ve done close to 50 by now).  He answers and has a nice voice and nice energy–this could be ok.  It turns out he is at a pretty popular local restaurant/bar with his daughter so we talk for a few minutes (went great, I thought) but there is obviously a lot going on and he asks if he could call me back later that evening.  I had a commitment, but said I would be back around 8:30-9 pm and he could call after that. He said no problem, he would text first to make sure it was ok and I looked forward to speaking to him again. 3 days later and I am still waiting….wish I could say this wasn’t typical, but in my experience (and that of all of my friends) it is.

Interesting follow-up on this one though:  Match has a companion site that is not as well known called Chemistry.com and there is a lot of people who are on both. I was on Chemistry for a short time a few months ago but even when you drop off, they still keep your profile up. This means you can continually get interest from people who think you are active, which Chemistry (in turn) sends to you to ‘lure’ you back to their site to rejoin–“Mr. X is interested in YOU! He sent you an E-MAIL! Join today to read it!” Well, I fell for this recently (like I’m the only one who would like to meet a cute orthopedic surgeon who is interested in me–don’t judge!) and rejoined for just a month to read this stupid e-mail from the above-mentioned doctor (who ended up e-mailing me twice telling me he is interested but too busy right now but he would be in touch soon–after he goes through his list of other ladies he is interested in, I suppose)  Anyway, they sucked me in for another month but I’m not the only one–K did the same thing once–you are so ever-hopeful to find the ‘one’ that you don’t want to miss that opportunity cause this could be IT!

So what does any of this have to do with Mr IM? Without realizing it, (while waiting for the doctor to get back to me) I had expressed interest in him through his profile on this site (you can formally state you have an ‘interest’ in someone and your ‘interest’ will be sent to them so they can see if they feel the same) and yesterday, 2 days after he actually spoke to me on the phone and didn’t call me back–he expresses interest in me!  Confused yet?  I sure am!